By Randy Ross

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Lesson #7 – Create a Positive Attitude

This lesson will take an in-depth look at how to create and keep a positive attitude. It is of course easy to have a very positive attitude when everything is going your way.  It is quite another thing to stay centered and hold that attitude in the face of bad situations and dealing with incompetence.

To respond to anger with anger does not take any skill. To respond to anger with a neutral attitude is higher up the food chain. However, to respond to anger with calmness, kindness and a plan for resolution is along the path to enlightenment.

I will be the first to admit that sometimes yelling back at someone feels really good. :-) The problem though is that it seldom achieves a good outcome. Typically it just spirals the situation out of control. Now I am not suggesting that you approach difficult situations with a stupid looking cult-like zombie grin. Instead you should be present in the situation and focus your energy on a resolution plan.  

Positive thinking in bad situations requires that you  have

practiced what is known as future pacing ahead of time. Future

pacing is when you imagine a possible situation and think through all

of the alternatives. You actually see yourself trying on  different

behaviors. Earlier we discussed the concept of operating on a 

continuum. You can future pace many different possible reactions to 

any situation.

When you project positive energy you tend to attract positive people. When you project negative energy people will line up to wallow in the misery with you.  The truth is that it is often very easy to strike up a conversation with someone by whining about the current moment. The line is to long or the temperature is to hot will get a quick response. I prefer to take the positive approach and focus on something good about the situation. This can be found in almost all situations.

If you plan ahead for problematic situations it becomes very easy to turn a negative situation into a positive one. I always carry my ipod with me loaded with six or seven hours of audios that I want to listen to. Anytime there is a delay, I am prepared to be productive.

I am often accused of being too positive. My response is, "What can it hurt?" Often I can elevate the morale around me, which if nothing else makes my day go better. Just because you become a positive thinker does not eliminate you from being a realist. If you come across a terrible car accident I highly encourage to just take action. However, if you are about to spend 8 hours with people that you do not particularly like, then there are lots of different actions and responses along the continuum that you can deploy.

I encourage you to watch the move The Secret at secret.tv. You can stream the video for $6 (does not work very well on a slow connection) or buy the DVD for about $30. If you look past the slick marketing presentation it provides a lot of good examples and insights into positive thinking.

How can you think positive if you are feeling depressed? First, let me acknowledge that it is difficult to take any steps or make any decisions when suffering from severe depression. Second, depression does not always make logical sense. There have been many times when I have felt depressed even though things in general were going well in my life.

People telling you to snap out of it or think positive will have little effect. If you are planning ahead before you are depressed, there are a number of things you can do. I have a recording of the theme song from "Rocky."  Listening to that always make me visualize Rocky bounding up the steps after weeks of grueling training. So, pull together a collection of music that makes you feel good.

If you want to help someone that is depressed then take action with them. Get them moving, take them out in the sunshine or for a walk in the park. Telling someone that is depressed to call you if they need help will never work. You need to physically go there and do something with them.

Next make a list of things that you are grateful for. Focus on what you have already. If you are living in the West you already have more that 95% of the world population can even dream about achieving.

It is easy to be dragged down into the negative energy around you. Acknowledge when it happens, step outside, get centered and then go back into the situation again.

          Lesson One |  Lesson Two    |  Lesson Three | Lesson Four   | Lesson Five

          Lesson Six  |  Lesson Seven | Lesson Eight   |  Lesson Nine  | Lesson Ten

 1) Write down 30 things that you are grateful for.

2) Watch the movie The Secret at secret.tv

3) Write down five things that might help you to snap out of depression at a future

    date. What gives you energy? What makes you feel good?

          Lesson One |  Lesson Two    |  Lesson Three | Lesson Four   | Lesson Five

          Lesson Six  |  Lesson Seven | Lesson Eight   |  Lesson Nine  | Lesson Ten

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